The Sacred Pause

How Does One Consume Vulnerably?

Well, I’ll tell ya. ☺ 

Think about what you put in your body?  Do you start your day with coffee, espresso, matcha, yerba matte, green tea, sugar, etc.?  Do you bookend that with a glass of wine, or a beer, at night, or dessert perhaps?  

Eating this way actually keeps us from feeling our authentic self and being in touch with the present moment; honestly and completely.  

Think About Your Day…

If we wake up and quickly pump our body with a stimulant because we think we need it, or because we feel tired and have been programmed to believe we should wake up energized, we are artificially altering our Now.  When we wake up we are given the opportunity to be present with how we feel and if we quickly guzzle something that instantly changes that, we missed the chance to Be.

And then we go about our day and we may consume some sugars, or other simple carb snacks or meals because we feel a craving for them, feel a slump in our day and think we need a pick-me-up, or might even be addicted to eating sugar.  Whatever the reason, we have again missed an opportunity of feeling and touching vulnerability in our day.  We feel things because our body is communicating with us.  We owe it the respect to listen and see what it really needs, not a quick fix, but a deep listening. 

Finally evening arrives and many look forward to a nice glass of wine as a reward for getting through the day, or perhaps a cocktail, beer, or maybe even something sweet to top off the day.  Whatever our choice is, we have once more, robbed ourselves from actually being with our true Self and feeling what is actually present.

Touching Vulnerability

Now, I do not judge anyone’s choices and I understand this cycle very well.  However, I care deeply about my work, my clients, and believe intently on the massive benefits of living in a way that allows us to touch our vulnerability; our emotions, our moods, our organic energy levels.  I know the power of eating clean so that we may be present for our lives, not cut off, detached, hyped up or numbed out.

If any of this rings true to you I invite you to do a little science experiment.  I bet you think I am going to tell you to stop all of those things, right?  Coffee, sugar, alcohol, etc.?  Nope.  I’m not, surprise! ☺ 

The Sacred Pause

Instead, what I feel will be more powerful and life altering for you is to create a gap, a conscious pause, often called a Sacred Pause, before you automatically carry out your life habits.

Here is what you do in that Sacred Pause, you literally stop, you stop what you are about to do, and you write down how you are feeling.  You create about a five minute gap between the beginning of the Sacred Pause and the action of drinking the coffee, eating the cookie, or drinking the wine, beer, etc.

In those five minutes you begin to notice what your present moment actually feels like and you bring in Conscious Choice.  After you have paused and written down your thoughts, you can then make a Conscious Choice if you actually are going to do whatever habit you disrupted by pausing.  Sometimes you may notice something that shifts you out of a habit and into a connecting with yourself and listening to what you really need.

” Really, Dove?”

I would tell you how it works for me but to be honest I do not drink coffee, eat sugar or drink alcohol.  I know, I know, I hear it all the time.  ‘What do you do for fun Dove?’ or ‘How do you wake up in the morning Dove?’  ‘How do you sleep without a glass of wine at night, what do you do to take the edge off?’ My favorite one is, ‘Come on, you must do something!’ 

I am always amazed at how hard it is for people to understand that this way of living is quite normal, healthy, easy, and very enjoyable.  One doesn’t need to alter their existence to be alive.  You can actually feel life and tend to your soft spaces with loving kindness while eating clean and living purely.

Stop Altering Your Now

If you do choose to practice this and discover that you are open to not continuing certain habits and instead are able to feel your life and live it 100% vulnerably and presently, without anything that alters your Now, I suggest the following ways to shift into a more vulnerable, healthy, mindful, and present lifestyle by eating and drinking clean.

Tips for “Clean” Eating and Drinking

I know you can do this

I wish for you a pure existence that is filled with vulnerability, mindfulness, and conscious choices made from love, and radical joy, along with touching tender sorrow.  It is okay to feel all over the map of the human spectrum of emotions.  You got this.

I am here if you have any questions or would like any assistance with this new terrain.  I send you love and an abundance of courage, patience, and the willingness to discover your moments authentically, and vulnerably.

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